Grief and Loss

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“Grief is like the ocean; it comes in waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.”
― Vicki Harrison

When someone you love passes away, you feel a deep void in your heart

You wonder how life can ever be the same again. Whether the loss was sudden or expected, nothing can prepare you for life without your loved one. The idea that one moment can change your life forever becomes a painful reality when you experience loss. The realization that your loved one is physically gone is shocking, painful, and scary. The initial shock of loss is often followed by a disbelief of what is happening. Your mind goes in circles, thinking…
How can this be happening?
It all happened so fast.
How can I live without them?

This isn’t fair.

How am I supposed to go on living life?

As the initial shock of loss begins to subside, grief begins to creep into your heart.
Grief can bring to the surface a slew of messy emotions such as…

·Confusion
·Anger
·Inconsolable sadness
·Anxiety
·Isolation
·Abandonment

Grief can also manifest itself physically by impacting…

·Sleep
·Concentration
·Muscle aches
·Physical activity
·Appetite and more
Losing someone you love can make you feel as though you’re walking through life with anchors attached to your feet. The world seems different; you feel lost and unsure of how to cope. All you know is that you want nothing more than to be with your loved one again, even if only for a minute. If this is your first time experiencing grief, you wonder how you could possibly get through this. If you’ve experienced loss before, you might feel like you don’t have the strength to go through yet another loss.
Grief following loss is a messy process. As you may have already found, there is no “How To” guide for surviving grief. Some days you feel okay and other days you can barely function. The process is different for everybody. Grief is indeed like the ocean, where emotions come and go in waves. Coping with grief is much like learning how to swim; it takes time and practice to build strength over time. Finding strength and hope is possible with the right support, guidance, and an understanding of how to keep your loved one close to your heart.

You don’t have to go through grief alone

Grief counseling can help you process and better understand the loss of your loved one. Counseling can also help you find a new “normal” when the time comes without having to leave your feelings in the past. Let’s not focus on “moving on”, but rather “moving forward” while keeping your loved one in your heart and mind.

To learn more about how grief counseling can help or for a complementary phone consultation, contact me.