Dear Friend, I want you to take a moment and breathe. You’re in a tough place right now, and it’s okay to feel lost. It’s hard to carry the weight of self hatred. I want you to know that you’re not alone in this struggle.
You talk down to yourself constantly. I know it feels impossible to tune that voice out or find another way to think. The thoughts that run through your mind and the comparisons you make are relentless:
- “Why can’t I be as good as others?”
- “I’m always falling short.”
- “I’m a failure, and I’ll never change.”
- “What’s wrong with me?”
- “I’m never going to have what others have.”
- “I don’t deserve to be happy. I’m not enough.”
- “Nobody cares about me; I’m just a burden.”
It’s exhausting, isn’t it? These thoughts can seem unending, and they create a cycle of negativity that makes seeing your own value feel impossible.
You deserve kindness and compassion, especially from yourself.
It’s time to shift that narrative, to replace the harsh words with gentler ones.
Your mistakes and doubts don’t define you. Every person has flaws, but those flaws don’t diminish your worth. We’re all human and let’s be honest: there is no one without flaws, we all have them.
Sometimes it feels like others have the perfect body and the perfect life. But perfect is subjective. What one person may deem as perfection another person may perceive as flaws. It’s impossible to be portrayed as perfect in everyone’s eyes because not everyone thinks the same way. The flaws you deem as awful, are actually very human and perfect. And you are perfect with your flaws, not despite them.
I wonder what it would be like to try to see yourself through the eyes of someone who loves you— beautiful, imperfect, and deeply human. Remember that growth is not about the destination, it’s about the journey.
It’s time to challenge the voice of self-hate when it gets loud.
Check in with yourself and ask, “Would I ever speak to a friend this way?” I believe you would offer them understanding, patience, and love. You have been through some really tough experiences. The beliefs you’re carrying about yourself reflect the pain and struggle you have had to overcome. You deserve to give yourself that same grace.
It might feel like you have tried everything. You believe that you can’t be helped. When the wave of hopelessness crashes on you, give yourself some space to slow down. Take another moment to breathe and look around. You’re not behind, you’re right where you need to be. Take this as an opportunity to make small steps toward self-acceptance. Celebrate little victories, no matter how insignificant they may seem. Surround yourself with people who uplift you, and engage in activities that make you feel alive.
If you feel like you’ve taken a step backward, it’s okay. Healing isn’t linear. It doesn’t mean that all of your progress was for nothing. Be gentle with yourself on this path. Every moment of self-compassion is a step forward.
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If you’re tired of carrying the weight of self-doubt and self-criticism alone, we’re here to help. Therapy is a space where you can learn to quiet that inner critic and replace it with self-compassion. You don’t have to do this on your own. Mindful Connections Counseling can offer support with in person and online therapy services. Start your therapy journey with our team of caring therapists by following these simple steps:
- Reach out for a free 15-minute phone consultation
- Meet with one of our caring therapists
- Start cultivating self-confidence!
You are worthy of love—start with your own.
With love and light,
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