When it comes to your romantic relationship, do you feel frustrated, uncertain, or stuck?
You feel like you’ve tried just about everything to make things better with your partner. You’re not seeing changes or results. And you always end up right where you started. You know that relationships take work, but you don’t know what else to try anymore. Most days you’re too tired to keep trying.
Repetitive and ongoing arguments, or complete avoidance and silent treatment, have become the norm. Between shutting down and blowing up, you can’t figure out a way to break the cycle. You know that this relationship feels dysfunctional, but you don’t know what to do about it.
The future of your relationship is unsure
Perhaps you’ve already tried speaking your mind, but that results in more arguments. Maybe you don’t know how to bring up tough conversations with your partner. You might be hesitant and therefore avoid bringing things up. Then you’re caught in a cycle of ongoing disagreements, or you stay quiet to avoid conflict. Either way, the problem goes unresolved.
In addition to communication difficulties with your partner, outside forces are taking their toll. These stressors could include, but are not limited to:
- Demands of work
- Financial burdens
- Blending your families
- Infidelity or lack of trust
- Addiction or substance use
- Unique needs for social interaction
- Differing cultures, beliefs, or attitudes
- Division of child rearing responsibilities
- Disagreements about parenting approaches
- Caring for elderly or mentally ill family members
- Mental illness, such as anxiety, PTSD, ADHD, and more
This relationship isn’t what it once was
You can remember a time when things were easier with your partner, but life looks different now. You used to feel excited to see, touch, and talk to your partner. Now you feel dread when you see their name pop up on your phone or hear their car pulling in the driveway.
Perhaps you can’t find the passion in your relationship that once existed. Most nights you feel like roommates rather than partners. You’re overwhelmed with life’s demands and can’t figure out a way to really connect. Ongoing tension and distance between you and your partner can take its toll on your body and mind.
In the fast-paced New Jersey, New York, and Connecticut area, it’s difficult to time or energy to work on your relationship. So will these problems continue forever? Can you continue to exist like this? Is there anything that will actually work? We’re here to help with that.
It’s time to try something new
Couples therapy, marriage counseling, or relationship counseling can help change the direction of your relationship. Our therapists help you explore your relationship patterns, both past and present. You will have the opportunity to feel heard, learn communication techniques, and reach a new level of understanding with your partner.
If you’re considering couples therapy for the first time, we know this isn’t easy. Here at Mindful Connections, we welcome all couples to sit with us and be heard. Our marriage counselors work with a wide range of couples–it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together or what your marital status is. We’re here to help you and your partner find a path forward, whatever that may look like.
As relationship therapists, we also work with couples who are considering, experiencing, or adjusting to separation, divorce, and blending families. Whether you’re healing from the wounds of your past and/or trying to co-parent peacefully, we’re here to guide you during this difficult time.